Relationships are extremely difficult to understand and manage. Because we are distracted with technology we have become overwhelmed with information thus our relationships are left behind. Also we are trying to take care of ourselves and many times others and we are working for a pay check or running a business and more. It makes complete sense as to why we are stressed out all the time. However, you don’t have to work that hard at relationships to make them work. What if I said, “You could simply think and it would happen for you.” I am going to explain to you 5 ways to improve your relationship with those around with your mind.
1.) Why wanting is NOT improving your relationship.
Typically people want their spouse or lover to understand them, listen to them, stop doing this and stop doing that. As you have probably already noticed that wanting the person to do what you want isn’t working. In fact you will never change that person. However you can change the way you see that person.
For example: Lets say you want your loved one to clean more often. Instead of telling that person to clean you simply think about him or her cleaning the house. Tell yourself that she or he is cleaning right now and daily. Also try to notice and remind yourself of the beauty of the other. We fall into the trap of only noticing the bad in others rather than the good. What you think is what you get.
2.) See the other as a perfect human being.
Even though people make horrible choices at times their true nature is the light that makes up our reality. We all are perfect beings and there is nothing wrong with anyone. We have been programmed to thinks other wise but as computers can be reprogrammed so can we. If we all indoctrinate the idea that humans are the divine, peace within our relationships will prevail.
3.) How can I serve you.
Sometimes we forget to not serve the other and only ourselves. If you find yourself getting upset because you didn’t get what you wanted then you must find a way to serve the other with no expectations. Ask yourself, "how can I best serve those I love," this question will help you get out of the selfish mindset. Also I find that blessing others out loud or within is helpful. Even though serving other's is extremely important it is imperative to treat your self also. Take some time to get a massage or go golfing. You must find balance within your life.
4.) Thoughts of respect
Respect has been a quality that many are lacking today. People have been attacking each other a lot in the past decades. However this can change if we change our own thoughts to respect for the other. So when you get upset at others you can take a moment to remind yourself to respect the other by saying to yourself, “I respect you.” Even if the other is disrespectful you must control your anger and frustration and show respect by not reacting.
5.) Improve your relationship with yourself 1st.
How do you perceive yourself. Do you see yourself as a kind, respectful, patient, and caring person? Or do you put yourself down with negative thoughts? Are you hard on yourself and to those around you? Not only is it important to perceive others as perfect just the way they are, we must also accept ourselves as amazing beings. If we can’t fall in love with ourselves how can we fall in love with others? We are the origin of our reality because if there is no us how can this world exist? Take some time to say I love you while looking in the mirror.
Jacob Dietrich is someone who is always learning and sharing information that will benefit our world.